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THE FEELING OF GUILT : ITS ESSENCE AND CONSEQUENCES

Guilt is aversive, a self – conscious emotion like embarrassment or shame which involves reflection on oneself focused but at the same time it is also socially admissible. whether real or imaginary.  It can be an emotional response to an action that is perceived as morally wrong , whether real or imaginary. It is normal to feel guilty after committing an act which is perceived as wrong but when it gets overbearing and hinders with daily living then it ca prove to be important to seek help as it can be an indicator of an underlying disease.

WHY DO WE FEEL GUILTY

Guilt arises from the “ conditioning” we receive as children from our family, teachers, friends, etc. Guilt becomes conditioned in our brain as we are taught to seek external approval.  Humans are social beings whose brains are habituated to seek social validations. Some actions are considered “good’ and “ approved” by the society while others are taken to be  “wrong” or “disapproved.” When committing acts of societal denunciations , when a persons behavior clashes with their  ethics , they feel a strong sense of regret and self – condemnation  . There are some principles and values ingrained in us , they can be at personal level or at a social level and acting against it makes us feel an unpleasant emotion which weighs down on our conscious.

HOW DOES GUILT HELP US

Guilt is not necessarily a bad thing even though it is a negative and unpleasant emotion. Guilt and regret can make you realize your lapses and by recognizing your mistakes, you can take a step forward by trying to make good of them, learning from them and walking on a path of self -betterment. Guilt makes people differentiate between right and wrong, which makes society more sustainable and worthwhile. Guilt is something that prevents people from doing certain things or encourage them to do some things (whatever the case may be). True guilt stems from the desire to make things better in the future. It is encouraging as it motivates us to change and not repeat the same mistakes in future. Guilt which is a very basic emotion engraved in human behavior has shaped the human society. Law and order which is a necessity is followed because of two things. One is the fear of punishment and the second is the guilt we feel by committing such acts. This is what makes the world worthwhile, morals, otherwise people would be inconsiderate.

WHAT GUILT DOES TO A PERSON

Excessive and continuous guilt can lead to anxiety and depression. It can feel suffocating and can impose damaging effects on one’s body and mind. It can highly damage the self esteem of the person . It is one of the most basic emotions but at the same time it is highly complex. Its degree varies from person to person . A same situation when faced by different people would cause a different degree (or none) of guilt. People experiencing this might feel like they have done something bad , like they do not deserve forgiveness and this might lead them to put themselves in situations which might harm or punish them because they feel like they deserve it and somehow it would lessen the burden on their conscious. At times it may not even be that persons fault but they are made to believe that somehow it is their fault, the burden on their conscious might be by their own perception of the situation or by someone else manipulating them to believe it.

More than that , the stress that arises from the feeling of guilt can cause serious consequences on a person’s body. Guilt, accumulates and can impose serious harm on a person’s body, it can cultivate stress which can in turn affect the normal functioning of the body. There are changes in the sleep pattern, change in appetite and loss of interest in doing activities which were previously enjoyed.

GUILT IS NORMAL

Everybody makes mistakes, we cannot lead absolutely perfect lives and we are bound to regret some parts of it. When a person is manipulated to experience guilt or has done something which makes them feel guilty. It is as if the good element of us judges the bad element of us. It feels like a weight which suffocates us , we become more paranoid and stat jumping to conclusions, there is loss of concentration and the feeling of worthlessness.

KINDS OF GUILT

NATURAL GUILT: It is a type of guilt one experiences immediately after doing something. It is unambiguous, a person can trace its origin. For example, lying to someone, etc. It can also be excessive when there is serious harm done. The people who feel more guilty are more empathetic. Psychopathy is often associated with being apathetic. A psychopath would commit horrendous crimes and not feel an inch of guilt. It is not entirely a bad emotion as it can help one to acknowledge their mistake and change course.

TOXIC GUILT:  This type of guilt is when the natural guilt intensifies. It is more intense and protracted as it arises from an action that conflicts with your deep rooted morals and ethics. People experiencing this feel as if their actions or thoughts have made them broken or hopeless. Often, the person is not really aware of what they have exactly done which makes the guilt even more agonizing. It is a product of our culture, religious beliefs, family environment and teachings .

EXISTENTIAL GUILT: It basically is the kind of guilt which people experience when they see others sufferings. People recognize how they are more privileged than other people. It could be the guilt of getting a good education while someone less privileged is unable to do so, or it could be the guilt of cutting a couple of trees for the construction of your house. The feeling becomes even worse when existential guilt is combined with toxic guilt. For example, a person whose parents were hateful channeled their anger on one of their kid so this person had sympathized with their sibling but could do very little to help them. That person’s frustration and incapacity results in an overwhelming guilt and responsibility. They feel like everything was their fault, how they could have prevented that from happening and that they deserved it to happen to them and not their sibling. Later, the person could feel that anything wrong that happens is their fault which might be inconsistent and false.

HOW TO DEAL WITH GUILT: There are two kinds of guilt , healthy and unhealthy guilt. Healthy guilt is when you hurt someone or do something “wrong” that you could have avoided. Here, you need to acknowledge your guilt and change your behavior and make amends. Unhealthy guilt is something more irrational. It is where the person has no control over the situation. There is not much a a person can do in this situation, here they should try and adopt a more positive mindset. Guilt can be resolved only when we acknowledge, make amends and accept it. Once you make do everything you can to make amends then you should start to accept it and move forward. A lesson should be learnt but guilt should not let you tie you down. Professional help should be taken if it starts to get overwhelming and interferes with our normal functioning. Mindfulness has proved to be a helpful practice. Positive self to talk should also be done.

What do you think?

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Written by Aditi Tiwari

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Yamini

Wow! Its the first time I read something about guilt. Its really interesting… Now I know about guilt. It very detailed! Nice one!

Janhavi S.

Really informative and clear! To add on, the origins and coping with the emotion of guilt has been studied extensively through various approaches in psychology. One such theory happens to stem from Freud’s study on the various psychosexual stages in humans, with special emphasis on the oedipus complex. He proposed that quite often, we tend to unconsciously employ defense mechanisms such as repression, projection, etc. to protect ourselves.

On the other hand, this article captures the essence of guilt from the cognitive theories approach to psychology. Great job!

Manasi Gujarathi

This article is very well written. I really liked how you wrote about how does guilt help us. Keep up the good work! 🙂

Fathima Muskaan

I really liked the topic! There are very less people who want to tall about these less understood strings of emotions. I actually liked your perception. Hope this reaches to more and more people.

Great piece!!

Ayeman Qamri

It is quite informative and a totally new topic. You can use different fonts for the subheadings and maybe bullets it makes the article look more interesting. Adding a few pictures can also help to catch readers’ attention. If you can have added links and references that would have helped the reading to know more about it. But overall it is really nice and well written.Keep up the good work.

Gauri Kakar

Absolutely thrilled after reading this article. It was so informative, engaging and super interesting. The style of writing is so beautiful.

Kirtika Tiwari

This article is really informative and has a catchy title.
It’s one of the most felt yet least discussed topics and I love how the author has put light on this really underrated topic.
The articulation is very easy and understandable.
We’ve all felt guilt in our lives so many times and yet most of us don’t fully understand it,I appreciate the author for picking up such a beautiful topic and putting it under the spotlight to reach us all.
The article is very interesting and strikes the right points to maintain the interest of the reader.
But i still feel it lacks the major essence of what the topic says. It does not explain us fully the consequences guilt gives on a person’s psychology and couldn’t capture the points needed to be included completely.
But I like how the reader has put so many efforts and has written the article with proper knowledge of the topic.

Soumya Murali

This was definitely a good read.! We all have felt guilt in our lives but are often unsure of how it emerges. Keep penning 🙂

Jigyasa vashistha

Hi,
It’s was amazing how you really pointed types of guilt. I read that first time fresh piece of information. Guilt is good as well as bad. Too many much guilt can seriously lower persons self esteem, that should be strictly avoided. Also we should not a person too much guilty, it works vice-versa.

Aditi Dhoundiyal

Really well-written and very informative. I loved to read in depth about a topic that almost everyone has experienced in the course of life.The examples were really helpful too. Great work!

Shatakshi Garg

Very well written. So informative!

Sabira Solanki

Hey there, it was really refreshing to read an article on a topic as confusing yet common as guilt. Distinguishing and trying to understand the type of emotion one is feeling, is important, and was well explained in this piece. Just a little suggestion-and this is not me telling me anything bad about your work, it was amazing- just that you could make the introduction a bit more catchy or interesting. Apart from that, loved you work, thank you so much for exploring this topic.

Shaily Vasani

This has always been a topic that had interested me but i hadn’t really taken out much time to get informed about it so I’m really glad that I came across this! It was very informative and I enjoyed reading your article

Dhriti Chadha

This article has been written really precisely taking into consideration everything, from the origin, reason to the coping of it. I really enjoyed reading this article because it was so informative and crisply written.

Faiza Naved

very informative article on a issue which is very common yet not spoken about.
nice work !

Mahi Dheri

Hey! Loved your article!

It is informative and provides various approaches and theories to understand guilt, its types and how to deal and cope with it!

Good job!
All the best!

Riya Rajkotiya

Wonderfull
Keep Writing

Deepali Kungwani

Nicely penned down. Good work!
Guilt is one of the least talked about emotions, it definitely needs more conversations on it, for irrational or excessive guilt can affect normal functioning.
Let’s spread more awareness and help people in need!

Simone Morarka

A very interesting topic, Aditi! Well done

Simone Morarka

The article was very informative too

kshithi

very well written…

anshika singh

Thankyou for the amazing information on guilt. A book by GUY WINCH- EMOTIONAL FIRST AID discusses this topic. Do read!

Jigyasa vashistha

this is such a wonderful article!! thanks for writing 🙂

Simran Rai

Great article!

Nidhi Dahiya

Interesting read and very informative