RELATIONSHIPS AND THEIR EFFECT ON HEALTH

I woke up half-eyed smiling to the sound of chirping birds, looking at my phone’s screen while his text popped up on the notification bar. I replied to him while brushing my teeth and sent him a picture of me with a goofy smile. Love makes you crazy! Doesn’t it?

I got dressed in a rush only to meet him sooner, his love tinting my cheeks pink and painting my soul with glitters. Everything seemed so pretty that day, the wind softly touching my cheeks, the sun kissing my skin with its tender light, and the people smiling at me as if my face announced the world of my euphoria.

It felt like a perfectly beautiful summer when I saw him smiling and gazing at me from a distance. I walked towards him and the closer I moved, the heavenly his face looked to me. Our eyes talked while our lips kept smiling and I held his hand like a little girl whilst we walked.

I kept talking endlessly in his arms wishing that the time pauses forever at this moment because this is my heaven! His deep brown eyes looked into mine again and I felt lost in him while he chuckled on my blabber. Yes! I was madly in love with all of him, his eyes, his smile, his touch but most importantly his eyes. I knew I loved him because even if he would talk about football all day, I could listen to him forever.

Love came knocking at my door unexpectedly one day and before I could even realize, I was already enchanted by him. He became my happy place, my favourite cup of coffee, and the reason for my happiness altogether. I knew I found my soulmate and I will hold on to him as tightly as I can, but as they say, the right kind of love sets you free, so did I. When I held him tight too long that my hands bruised, I let go of the hold and I set him free.

And now he’s gone and my heart feels like Autumn, like the leaves that fell, pieces of my heart fell too. Waking up to these lonely mornings does not make my cheeks blush anymore, sipping coffee in my favorite cup makes me want to throw up. My soft skin that you adored is flaky white now and the eyes you thought were heavenly are all dried up from crying all night.

Your absence has taken away my smile with you, while your memories have left me with a thousand daggers in my heart and each time I pull out a dagger, my heart bleeds. You gave me forever in a couple of days and now my life feels a nightmare I am running away from.

Each night I wonder what went wrong, why am I sobbing in the middle of the night until my gut pains and I fall off my bed. I think you were bored with my blabbers or my goofy snaps, or perhaps you thought I was too insecure, no honey I wasn’t some psycho who wanted to stick to you like a leech, but I was a lover who couldn’t share an ounce of your love with anyone. But now everything is in vain because you gifted my sorrow and you gifted me pain.

I spent most of my time in mind looking at our pictures from that day at the beach and remembering all the lies that you said. I let my guard down for you and you fired a bullet right in my chest, and my wounds still bleed because your memories won’t fade and it kills me that I thought you were my soulmate!

A long time has passed, and I finally made it out of bed today, a fine achievement! My bruises seem to be fading, and the cuts that the daggers of your memories slit in my heart seems to be filling, it’s not that I don’t miss you at all but my heart is gradually making peace with your absence. Ever since I took that job I have honestly hadn’t had time to think of you, yes you may be right I made myself so busy so that I cannot think about you, but I will! Trust me I’ll get back at my feet and never be bothered by your existence, but I need some time to heal and maybe a lot of it. But until I do it, I will just grow a little every day and become a bit stronger every night.

HOW RELATIONSHIP AFFECTS MENTAL HEALTH

Personal life or personal relationships have a great impact on a person’s mental health. A major part of a person’s attitude towards life and towards others also depends greatly on their personal relationships. A happy and healthy relationship shapes a healthy, happy, and optimistic person whereas a relationship with stress or indifference may shape a person with arrogance, sadness, anxiety, or pessimism.

Personal relationships are it romantic or non-romantic relationships have a direct effect on a person’s mental health. If all a person’s relationships are good and healthy it will be reflected in their good and healthy mental health whereas, if their relationships are going through a rough patch, their mental health will be affected.

When an individual is facing difficulties in their relations, they tend to worry, show negative thoughts, arrogant behavior, and sometimes feelings of miserableness. They stress out to make them work or to make them better, thus it causes mental strain affecting their mental health.

CONCLUSION

Relationships can always be mended if they are worth mending. Stressing oneself for a person who does not validate your thoughts and feelings may be unnecessary, however, make your complete effort if a relationship is worth saving, do it with all your might but not at the cost of your mental health, loosen the ties if they still want to leave.  Nothing matters more in your life more than your own self.  Make yourself a priority and learn to love yourself first, rest all will follow up.

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