Valencia D'souza
LOVING YOURSELF IS THE FIRST STEP
Have you ever wondered why we find it so easy to love other people,
Yet find it so difficult learning how to love our own self?
All of us were taught loving your very own self depicts us as an egocentric or conceited person.
So,”” How to love yourself?
As Oscar Wilde stated , “to love oneself is the beginning of a long-time romance”
We all realize the way to love the humans round us however what we omit out is how should we love our very own selves. Most of the humans give up their complete self to their cherished ones and overlook their very own selves which ends up in getting hurt at the end. We all often have a habit of seeking out a person to like us, to fill the void in our existence of the affection that we do not have for our self. loving humans isn’t a weak spot instead its a splendid present which all people receive. But letting others opinion of you dominate you and your mind can lead you down an unpleasant course that I suppose all of us fall victim to. Even as loving humans we overlook our self. For loving our self we should first accept our very own self. the flaws, the weak spot, the strength we should accept all of these. This acceptance of your own self may be step one towards loving yourself.
Loving your own self is not a smooth road. You fall, you get up, you walk, sometimes slow and sometimes fast. It’s all withinside the process, as its now no longer a destination – its an everyday practice. Start meeting yourself in the middle of the mess, it is in the uncomfortable situations where we truly locate our self.
Many people understand the idea of loving their own self after been harmed by someone. You may call this phase of healing. Healing for you to lead you to the goal of loving yourself. As Bianca Sparacino has stated, “Be brave enough to heal yourself even when it hurt”. healing, from my angle, is totally a lovely section, it is this period of time where you find yourself. you attempt to understand yourself, you think about your flaws and start working on it. However, it depends upon person to person how long this phase continues, however one aspect is sure that, its the beautiful feeling which you can experience. it simply offers you the wish that “NO, it will get better stay strong and stay still”. Healing does not mean that you won’t cry or there won’t be any difficult instances, NO…NEVER…., there might be struggling, there will be times where you will go on crying and crying, but dear that’s the best thing. You may feel you have lost a battle but the results are different. after those crying sessions and suffering the feeling you get is divine, you will realize how strong you have been a little while ago, you have been so amazing. it’s simply so lovely achievement
Respect yourself, love yourself, because there has never been a person like you and there never will be again – Osho
so the next question that arises is how do you get there? Let me tell you what has worked for me :
KEEP FIGHTING
As I stated in advance the road won’t be smooth, it might not be a road of only roses, it will also comprise of thorns which will make you fall, trip, hurt yourself. There could be instances when you will be all good but suddenly you will burst into tears. And that’s okay because it is a part of the process. You only need to keep one thing in mind to keep fighting. Go on fighting. If you lose one battle you will win another one. Just fight. Not for others, but for your own self. YOU are important than anyone else.
BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF.
What’s wrong with me? Why am I always failing? Why am I so unhappy always? Thinking those thoughts, getting irritated on yourself, cursing yourself for not being goodwill only lead you to the rabbit’s hole. It will be difficult but that’s not the end dear, in war you get wounded, you lose, you lose people, you need to be more gentle on yourself. Rather than treating yourself roughly, you need to heal yourself. You need to keep faith in yourself.
CHANGE RATHER THAN BEING BROKEN
Whenever we all undergo a difficult phase, the first thing which we do is to stay broken. Staying as though we have no wish in anything. But after pondering on those thoughts I realized rather than Just watching your broken pieces crying for help you need to change yourself. You need to gather your pieces and put them together again. There is only one life, there are people who love you, you have your own self to love. There are many more reasons for getting up and changing yourself. You just need to find one reason and everything will change.
ACCEPT YOUR IMPERFECTIONS
There will be many people or instances which will show you the mirror of imperfections. Where you will know your darkish imperfections. But is that the end? Is your imperfections the end? NO, to me its the start of your actual life. Knowing your flaws will only lead you to change because changes are good. You will be able to make a new version of yourself. And what exactly is changing?…..to understand your imperfections, working on it and bringing a new change to it is the actual change. So start accepting your imperfections.
REMEMBER THE CREATOR
as in line with the bible, we were made as an image of God and now no longer loving our self only means we are not loving our self. Many times we think God has created us imperfect. But what we miss out is that God did not make us imperfect, our thoughts which might be frequently from the social media and the toxic people around us, the negative thoughts which creep in our mind has made us imperfect. These thoughts lead us to compare our success or loss with others because of which we neglect or leave behind what actually we have got. Life without purpose is aimless and I believe God has given each person his/her own purpose which we need to find. In the bible, ISAIAH 55:8-9 SAYS “ FOR MY THOUGHTS ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS, NOR ARE YOUR WAYS MY WAYS”. so believe in him. Only he will give you hope, people will come and go. So believe in his words and keep moving forward.
KEEP YOU AS THE PRIORITY
Many of us forget to value our own self while doing things for others. We start giving the people in our surrounding the first place or I would say we tend to give our own place to others. That’s the problem with putting other people first you’ve taught them you come second. when you start giving people your place you forget about yourself. you will start losing confidence in your own self. you need to be strong by yourself after which, you can think about people. we’re humans and we’re a social being, we need people and we need to communicate, God has given us the right people in our life, but that doesn’t mean friends and people in our surrounding are our life. our life is ours given by god, work on it and enjoy it.
I once came across a note where it said, when we can’t control the things going on we get frustrated, so try things which you can get control of, do things which will work as you have already planed. it will make you more controlled and help you grow. rather than running after people, wasting time after people or any issue. try to do works which will make you happy try to improve your talents. In the end, what will remain is you, your accomplishment, even these accomplishments will be small but you will be happy, satisfied.
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Interesting concept and we’ll written
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Interesting concept and well written
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Prioritize self-love.
Yes, thats the main focus which people forget most of the time.
Well conceptualized. I liked the fact that you have elaborated about respecting ourself no matter what happens. Keep up the good work.
Thank you so much…keep supporting.
Hii valencia ! Great work keep going
thank you so much
Hey Valencia, I have read the article and I must say that it was very informative. I just love the way you categorized every step with pictures. I liked your idea of Using article content box which makes easy for a reader. The topic you spoke about is very important and it is so under-rated. People should actually start applying self love in their lives so a better life because loving oneself is very important.
Your work is amazing and I loved it.
Reflective article. Each person should self- prioritize themselves at first. Loving yourself is utmost priority for loving other. GOOD JOB:).
Hello,
I am glad to say this article of yours is so pure and spiritual. I mean I just loved the way you shared your experiences of coming across an article or healing being your favourite part of loving yourself. My moto of mental health is also somewhat like that, that no one can love you the way you love yourself. There were some grammatical mistakes but that can be ignored if you go with the flow of reading the article and also I highly appreciate the way you attached various quotes on loving our ownselves.
Keep going!!
Take care!!
Amazing!
We should start accepting our flaws and imperfections because that is what makes us perfect.
The way we love others, the same way we should pamper, love and be gentle on ourselves.☺️
A topic that so important in today’s world, especially with the growing competition and comparison. It’s so important to learn to love oneself before anything less. Good use of words to express that. Very well articulate and awesome use of love yourself quotes.
Cool concept.And you wrote and explained it well
Amazing!!
Interestingly written
Love the pictures with the quotes. The article was so clear. Kinda felt like a personal letter. Amazing.
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i read your article and must say its a very important topic. I liked how you used quotations to express your words and i remember there is a quote which said ” I will not apologize for choosing myself this time, self-love is the chapter that i’ve always wanted to write” people need to understand that loving and taking care of oneself is not selfish..
Valencia D’souza the topic itself gets my points cherry on the top is your writing .article is simply amazing. The article from starting to end is amazing. I loved the way the article started. This article at this time has a special place. structure, the pagination, the picture are one point.
Self love is the supreme love. Very informative. Keep writing.
Keep going great work
Self Love is what is the need of this hour. Thanks.
Wow! This was surely amazing and something I needed to read about.
Thank you beautifully explaining it. Sending all the power your way! :’)
Very well written and thank you for reminding us the importance of self-love because without it, everything in life would feel worthless. The points are descriptive and well-structured, great work!
Loving yourself is hard but in the end, it is worth it! Lovely article!!!!
Considering the challenging times, we are all living in, more often than not our insecurities get the best of us spiralling down the continuum of self doubt and confusion. This article decribes perfectly Why it is always important to love and accept yourself and then continue striving to be the best version of ourselves. Also, i believe, positive affirmations , journalling and Gratitude exercise can help us in this journey of self love and acceptance.
It was such motivating thing to read. Everyone really need to learn to love themselves more. Everyone’s deserve it to themselves this is something very few understand. Living a life for others never ends good. Self-love is very much important nowadays.
Well done! Everyone must love their self
Its amazing article
If i would have written something it would be on this topic. It was really well written and categorized. And an absolute message we all need to understand.
This is the kind of topic that we need most in these tough times and you handled it well. There is this website called Psychology Today which produces authentic and well written content on psychological issues and questions. Do check it out and I hope it helps you in your further writings.
Self love is one of my most favourite topics to study about and it being one of the most important too for leading a satisfying life. The points you wrote are really great and are really the first step to self love. Loving oneself is all about accepting one’s flaws and imperfections and it may sound easy to do but it truly isn’t. People really have such a twisted idea of themselves or the idea of self love that it was nice to see you elaborate some points here to achieve that first step into self love. Great work
I would say @Valencia D'souza well done! I have gone through a journey where I made my mind of prioritising myself first. That made me change alot… I suggest everyone please darling start loving and prioritising yourself. I swear that will make your life more and more loving and joyful.
Loved the way the article is written , it talks about a very important topic in a very simple and articulate manner. And I really like the use of the pictures and quotes.
Seriously this article must be read by everyone its something so important that each and every individual should be aware of and the awareness of self love should be made. Your pictures specially quotes is so good and your article is so good. Keep going on and waiting to read more of your article.
So I was having a heart to heart conversation with someone one day and something she said stuck in my head. “SELF LOVE IS SO GLORIFIED THESE DAYS.” They portray self love as its something happening overnight. As if you don’t have to really dive deeper into yourself, sometimes get triggered, sometimes breakdown several times, give up, deny, acknowledge, accept everything even if it hurts, know the basic truth, go through head storms, emotional outbursts and explosion, have to let go, and do everything you hadn’t ever dreamt of, just to grow gradually and keep falling even more everytime. They portray it as a cakewalk. IT. AIN’T. EASY.
THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR PUTTING IT OUT TO THE WORLD. SENDING VIRTUAL HUGS. 🙂
Self love is very important and should be prioritised. Well written article
I have to say that this is a must- read. Absolutely loved the way it’s written .In this modern world, i feel reminders like these are really essential in order to help us remind ourselves what we tend to forget,that is self love. It is such an underrated topic and i feel it really did wake me up. Also I loved the way you used different quotes and pictures above. Keep it up!
This is really nice. Self love is really important. Very well written.
Very useful article for present generation. Too good. Explanation was so nice and highly informative.
Self love is so important and should be a priority in all our lives. Believing in ourselves is so important and being ourselves is the basic need. It such a important topic, and for you to make it so inspiring is so great.
Beautifully written❤️
Hey, thank you writing this. This is such an important thing to remember. It is very weird that whenever we think of “love” the first thing that comes to our mind isn’t ever ‘love to self’. There are thousand forms of self love, all being valid. Please remember that self love is also eating right, knowing your own body, knowing your mind, keeping yourself healthy, finding your spirituality, making healthy relationships. Self love is also seeking help, reaching out to therapist.
Well explained that self- love is not easy, its an uneven road. But it should be the priority.
I love how you have pitched in quotes and images, to help with the visualization of this article. It has almost everything you need to know about loving yourself. One thing you could have mentioned more clearly would have been that it takes time to accept and love yourself. Time heals and it can take weeks, months, or even years, but things do get better if you take the first step of loving yourself. This is a very sweet article:)
Notice to self. Self love is the best love. Super cool.
Hi,
This is really great & trending topic nowadays.. SELF LOVE. Well asking question how can I self love? Is a great step as mentioned in your article. Just loved it. Self love plays & reflects a major role in everyone’s life. How we feel for ourselves is how we can further transfeel for others. Congratulating everybody on their respective self love journey. As it will eventually help outwards too.
Wonderful.. The concept is really interesting… I would love to discuss on this topic and get more facts. Because self love is important.
Hey!
The most important topic everyone needs to be thinking about- Loving Oneself. It’s also the most ignored topic but people like you take steps to change this fact for the good. Content was obviously good. The quotes by famous personalities do leave a mark. Be kind enough to accept a small suggestion from me- there is a boy band named BTS. They advocate this very topic quite religiously and sincerely through their music. I suggest you introduce yourself to them and include them in your future articles related to living oneself.
Keep it up!
I love the way you presented self-love 🙂 . its difficult to love yourself when we are in surrounding ourselves with social media which critiques our each and every move. Some might take it in a positivee way but some leave their passion for the appraisal of others, thats where self love is needed. it is needed to grow ourselves above and beyond expectations and judgements and live to the fullest.
thank you so much for the article. 🙂
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LOVING YOURSELF IS THE FIRST STEP this topic which you have taken is a very relevant one. Because nowadays most of the people don’t love themselves and have a poor mental health. So this article is very much informative for nowadays community and hope that those who reads this article love themselves. Nice work.
Hey Valencia! This article made me feel so good and really has a self-love aura around it (feels weird to say that about an article but couldn’t find better words 🙂 ) I really loved how you added quotes and how the headings were clear and concise.
Thank You so much for writing this amazing piece of work! Kudos to your hardwork and research <3