Introduction

Infidelity is mentally, emotionally, and physically painful to the betrayed spouse. Be gentle with yourself as you heal.~Dr. Karen Finn

From the statement provided above, we could get a glimpse of the infidelity, that it is something unfair or immoral. Don’t worry about what it is, because here we will be having a wide discussion of what does it mean, the reasons behind it and so on.

Infidelity Means

The definition of infidelity can differ based on one’s understandings. According to me, I see that it is an act of unfaithfulness and disloyalty to a life partner. This can be easily understood when we express it as a betrayal of a man/woman to their bonded partners for whom they have given promises and taken vows. Cheaters who prefer to wreck a promise made to an inseparable spouse don’t think that the serious consequences their attitudes can have on that adored one. This is generally taken as the result of unhappy couples, but the fact is infidelity can be also seen in happy couples. Right now, I can hear your mind which wonders “What might be the cause of its occurrence?”.

Occurring of infidelity:

In spite of how happy or unhappy the couples live, infidelity occurs in both the criteria. All sort of infidelity shows up from a biological and relational longing. That is one tends to seek a person other than their mate to feel relaxed or what they seek for. It can be a sexual, emotional, or perhaps both.  Every type differs in how it must be approached and reacted. To be precise, sexual infidelity is because of the need for sex and doesn’t require a relational bond between the two individual whereas emotional infidelity arises from a rapport between the two individuals. At some cases, the infidelity once began as an emotional and later grows into a physical relationship, this is the steady and dominant type among the three.

Men who feel insecure and damaged, bored are more likely to get an affair to feel pleased.  It’s human nature that they criticize the internet for providing people with more opportunities to cheat on their partners. Yes, it is the technology which also has paved the way for infidelity. In addition to that culture plays a crucial part in it. Comparing the cultures of western and our Indian culture, we can easily say where the chances of infidelity are higher. In India the arrange marriages which are done without brides involvement gets resulted in such a direction.

Biological reason:

As we are concerned about the sexual and emotional need, we need to consider the biological reasons too. Articles say that up to 40 % of the wedded partner is influenced by infidelity. Biologically, men who possess higher testosterone to have the tendency to deceive their partners. This can be also seen in persons carrying an increased dopamine reward system. Women’s with higher estrogen do the same. For them, their ovulatory cycle is another biological factor. It can be seen that men cheat more than women in the past 20 years. But the studies also say that the percentage of men’s cheating has been stable and whereas women’s has been increased by nearly 50%. While examining the types of infidelity accused by men and women, more often the men’s do it for intercourse and women’s seek for emotional need.

Effect it has on relationships

In most of the cases, the affair of the partners is not found. This is because they do it because they can and they have that opportunity to attain. If they know that they can’t hide it then the feeling of guilt will be preventing them from committing treason. So, the relationship stays as it is when infidelity is not found. But in the case of a person got caught or exposed, the relationship gets impacted. This does not mean that relationship will be ended.

The opinion to stay in an affair after disloyalty is based on norms comprising finances, family relationships, and the shared parenting of young kids. It is obvious that when they have kids, the chance of forgiving is higher. But when concerning what the society would comment the pain gets deeper and conflict occurs. To end this feeling of grief and move on we need to be able to make correct decisions.

Overcoming infidelity:

When I think of the person who has got cheated, the pain will terrible and handling their emotions will be a challenge. Instead of showing emotions like anger or getting mentally affected, they can decide either to stay or move. Consulting the therapist will be a good option to get rid of suffering. After talking to social networking, when their buddies and family thought they should abandon their spouse, then they were less possible to let off the partner, and less liable to keep up with them after the unfaithfulness. But the facts say nearly 44% get back to their relationship.

On the other hand, it is not sure that a person who has done the crime and caught, will do the same in future. Regaining the broken trust is a great challenge for a betrayed person. This needs a fresh start to the relationship in order to forget the past and create a prosperous future. Faith is recovered through continual improvements and honesty. Practically, they must make an agreement to living as a different person and accepting by specific limitations, the most significant of which is never-ending strict morality about completely everything. Be open as possible, this will help to prove that you are ready to be a new person. They should also ensure that no more conflicts are caused by them.

How to avoid getting into infidelity?

As we have discussed that it is unethical to commit treason, we should be aware of how to avoid those attitudes from our lives. When you get married to someone, love them wholeheartedly and be fulfilled with them. Develop a feel that when you are into an affair and get caught that will definitely hurt the feelings of your partner. The guilty feel will create a distance between you two. When you have thought of getting in an affair, get to know that your partner may also be doing it. I say this because you got that feeling because you are not satisfied with your partner and they may feel the same way right. Don’t get into the deep sea by ruining your relationship.

Hurting our loved one’s ourselves is a sin, be truthful to your life partner to lead a delighted life without any troubles. When you are in need of emotional help seek your friends or family rather creating an affair. Trust is like a glass, once broken it is tough to get back its original shape.