Gajalakshmi karuna
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EFFECTS OF MARTIAL DISPUTES ON CHILDREN:
Every child is good when they are born, but they change their behaviour with what they see and how people react around them.
It is good that parents need to avoid fights and arguments before children.
The fight between parents makes the child mentality bad.
Usually, children tend to adopt what they see, when they see that their surrounding is full of fights and arguments they tend to adopt it.
As I said every child is good, all depends on how parents have a healthy relationship before children.
It may affect the child mentally and leads to aggressive behaviour.
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For example, when you plant a tree you start to water it and put some necessary things like pesticides vegetable peel and whatever essential a plant need.
Same like when you guide a child, you have to take responsibilities to enhance them into a better human being. Whatever you reflect to your child it will be the result of their behaviour.
As a parent, you must have a major responsibility in guiding the child in a good way. Fighting, arguments and misunderstanding are common in a relationship but try to avoid it in front of the children.
Don’t argue and make conflict among them because it badly affects the child’s mood.
Children’s are like a magnet they easily attract to the behaviour what they see. That too children’s preschool and grade school they easily misunderstood and lead to conflicts.
The principles involved in settling marital disagreements:
MUTUAL RESPECT IN AN ABSOLUTE NECESSITY:
Mutual respect is a must among parents. If each of them starts respecting both the child will understand the values. if parents won’t respect each other the child starts to observe it and react it in later.
WHEN AN DISAGREEMENT ARISES, CONVERSATION SHOULD FOCUS ON THE ISSUE NOT ON THE PERSON:
When the disagreement or conflict arises the conversation should be focused on the issue, like what was the problem why such misunderstanding or fight takes place, the reason behind the problem. You must not focus on the person and blame them, as this problem happens only because of you. This may create a hatred among the child and the child starts to hate and make a conflict to that person.
DISCUSS AN ISSUE INAPPROPRIATE TIME AND PLACE:
During arguments and issues among relationship don’t argue and quarrel in front of children’s. Make a separate space and time to sort it out so the child can avoid those arguments.
So it’s not only relationship conflict before children when you have fight or arguments among children also sort it out in the same way. Communicate in a very kind way that does not affect the children mind. Most of the times children’s spend their hours with their parents. So the responsibilities of the parent is to avoid conflict between parents and make a peaceful life to children
Research on the impact of a couple of inter-parental conflict on children has a long and established history
(Emery, 1982; Grych & Fincham, 1990; Davies & Cummings, 1994; Harold & Conger, 1997; Cowan & Cowan,
2002). From as far back as the 1930s it has been recognised that discord between parents has a potentially
debilitating effect on children’s psychological development (Towle, 1931).
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good pointers. in addition, not only do they should try to avoid conflicts but it is important to show children how to regulate their emotions and behavior when conflicts take place and hence, inclusion of children when a discussion is taking place is needed.
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