Vinaya Dalvi
Accepting our bodies.
Standing in front of the mirror, she pinched the fat on her stomach. Looked at her big thighs, never had she liked the way she looked, the way her body was built. She thought that if she could point out and write about her flaws, a thousand pages wouldn’t be enough.
Somewhere in an apartment room, a boy thought the same about him.
Disliked his skinny arms, long legs and facial hair. He didn’t like what he saw, in fact, he hated himself.
The scars on his arms were proof of that. “Real men are muscular”, he thought.
Accepting yourself shouldn’t be hard, but the mind is a tricky thing and thoughts are scary if you let them control you. We are taught from the very beginning of our lives that we have to look a certain way, fit into a certain weight category to feel good about ourselves and feel worthy.
The pressure of fitting into that category makes us do things to our body that we’d never do, treat ourselves like garbage, not accepting and loving ourselves for who we are.
Each person is unique, beautiful, intelligent and worthy. We were created to stand out and not be someone else’s clone. The most important source of information and entertainment, AKA social media shows us that different body types are always trending and going out of trend.
Thinking about if our waists are ever going to be small enough or shoulders broad enough is horrible.
Because our bodies are ours, and instead of loving them and taking caring of them, we worry if we’ll fit into that box of “perfection”.
I know what it feels like to hate everything about yourself and it might feel like you might never love yourself or accept the wonderful person that you are.
Self-acceptance is hard (although it shouldn’t be), but isn’t impossible.
Start by positive self-talk, intuitive eating, working out, wearing clothes that make you feel good, and most importantly, be grateful for having such a wonderful body.
Your body does so much for you so cherish it. You’ll fall down, feel the sadness, anger, shame and try to get up again.
You’ll do it 10 more times if you have to because no one is going to love you more than yourself.
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Amazingly written…good job. keep it up
Well written!
Body positivity is much needed!
Thank you!!
waaooww.. beautifully written..♥️♥️
Thank you!!
VERY WELL WRITTEN, A REALLY GOOD ARTICLE
Great work !! 😀
Excellent ,superb…..perfect presentation of reality.keep it up…
Thank youuu!:)
Thank you!:)
Wonderfully Written
I loved how positive your article is. I would have loved to read more. Maybe you could elaborate a bit more by adding self-help practices for people who self loath. That could enhance this article and make it even more positive!
no one is going to know and love you more than your self well said
Thank you so much for this article, it makes me realise that I am not the only one. And to all the people reading this comment, you are beautiful or you are handsome and what others say does not define you.
Well written piece
A much needed topic
Brilliant
Keep up with the good work
Great content
Will share
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This is one of the very necessary topic to be spoken about. Thank u for sharing this and truly very well written!
well written!
Thanks for this one..Love your article.. This is so informative.. Keep writing.. & all the very best for your future. ✨
Well conceptualized.
Acceptance is the best message you can spread and this article is powerful enough to increase one’s acceptance of one’s own body.
Only suggestion would be write more. Lengthy articles from you will be interesting to read. Looking forward to more articles from your end.
love yourself is a really nice message in itself… nice article…
A positive and self motivating work….keep going ,best wishes
It’s really good and I think yaah we should love our body no matter what . Well written
Nice topic.
Good work
Just make it more organised.
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Our bodies are so valuable that they need to be given more and more credit for every single thing they do. I am so happy that you brought that to everyone’s notice through such impactful writing. Like you said, self- acceptance is never an impossible outcome— it is surely possible in due time.
More power and love to you for such lovely message.
great topic and well written.
Well explained
good job keep going and posting such amazing article.
Accepting yourself is the biggest strength and achievement.
Well written.. And very motivating too
Self acceptance is difficult at first. But once initited its a very beautiful way of staying strong. Well written
Amazingly written…good job. keep it up
For someone still learning to accept her body, I loved this article!
Such a warm and motivative writing. I am sure this would have had a great impact on every individual who read this article just as it made me realize how important it is to love yourself and don’t care about others judgment.
Very good topic and nicely written.
It’s so nice. Loving it!
Well said. We need this body positivity around.
Ohh man !! Loved it
loved your article..especially that line “WE were created to stand out and not to be someone else’s clone”
Hey, Vinaya Dalvi!
Being a girl with short stature I’ve always felt like my physical appearance will limit my possibilities in every area of life. I know that it is a meaningless thought, but sadly, I’m not able come out of that thought!
Your write up did push me to channelize my thoughts in a different way. To think in a way like ‘if everybody appeared in a perfect way, how uninteresting and dull the world would be!’
With tall comes short, with pretty comes ugly, with fair comes dark! We just have to accept each other and move on! Hope this thought takes root in every individual
Different topic. Very well written.
Very well written Vinaya. You’ve explained and give words of encouragement so beautifully. Thank you for this piece of work.
Much needed article. beautifully written!!
Thank you, I needed this more than ever today. Self love isn’t easy, and yet it’s so easy to fall back to the same self loathing practices, the same self hate. Holding on and striving is all we can do, cause at the end, it’s just us with ourselves. I love how positive this was, I would love if it was more elaborate. Also, maybe you could add what other things that are harmful yet common, like diet talks etc. Overall, a great article.