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What I do when everything seems to be going wrong

It was in the 12th grade when I had my first real encounter with failure. I had failed a Physics unit test and had never felt worse. I felt guilty and stupid. While almost half my classmates had failed the test, I had always been a good student and this put me down really badly. The fact that my board exams were just a month or two away made the situation a lot worse. Like any other Indian student, I was made to believe that my board marks were extremely important and largely determined my future. Worries about my academics and expectations set for me started filling my mind. There were classmates walking around asking each other’s marks and I ran to the washroom to be alone for a while and process the fact that I had failed a test.

The process took a while. Thankfully my family understood and I decided to work harder for my board exams. Over the period, I kept telling myself that it was okay to fail or go wrong sometimes. I knew failure is a part of life and everyone experiences it in some form or the other at some point in their lives. But I also knew that to overcome this setback, I’d have to cut back on a lot of things. I stopped spending as much time outside or time watching television. I enrolled myself in Physics tuitions, which, even though started late, helped me understand and like the subject so much more.

We all are likely to come to a point in our lives where we think everything is going wrong- that nothing is in our favor. We feel lost and helpless and cannot think of ways to move forward with our lives. While the process of moving on is undeniably hard and long, it is possible.

One important step towards this is to create an emotionally motivating environment for yourself. Surround yourself with people who love and support you, take time out to do things you love. A survey by the American Institute of Stress (AIS) found that 48% of people admit the negative impact stress has on their personal and professional life. This stress could be the result of a tiring, overburdening environment wherein you and people around you remind you of your setback and compel you to work more, despite you not being in the right mental state to do so. Creating work and personal environment that will help one stay motivated and mentally healthy and productive at the same time, is ideal.

Another important step is learning from your mistakes. While this may sound very cliche, it is essential in the path towards recovery. Analyzing my failure, I realize I could have paid more attention in class and started studying for the test in advance. These realizations help me plan my next steps better and prepare me for any kind of hurdle of complication that may come my way. It is important to not repeat these mistakes and follow through with the set of rules you set for yourself for the next task. Take this setback as an opportunity to learn new skills and refine your already existing ones. These will give you the confidence to face similar situations in the future because you would be better equipped and prepared than you were last time.

Failure makes you question your abilities and can change the perception you have about yourself. You may question your skills, your talent, and your abilities, and see them significantly weaker than they actually are. It is important to understand this because sometimes failure is not a result of your lack of abilities. It could be a lack of effort or situational problems. While improving your skills is always beneficial, questioning yourself more than you should only result in you feeling demotivated and low. Your failure does not define you, the way you react to it does. While it is normal to feel lost and unmotivated at first, getting up and bracing yourself to fight is the crucial step. This is definitely easier said than done. It is a long but attainable goal.

It is essential to understand that all this is temporary. Failure comes and goes and is not going to stick around forever. It is all part of your journey and when you look at the bigger picture, these small setbacks will either seem insignificant or will come something that’ll only help you work better towards your goals. This is something I keep telling myself when things are not going right. Keep looking at the bigger picture. Because that’s what will matter in a couple of years.

Finding inspiration can also help one get back on the right track. This can include talking to people, reading self-help books, watching Ted talks: anything that makes you feel motivated and inspired. Allow yourself to listen to other people’s journeys, get tips, and re-evaluate your plan ahead.

Finally, we need to remember that life is unpredictable. While you may achieve success right after your first failure, you may fail again too. This is a hard pill to swallow but one must learn to acknowledge that success does not come easy and that there will be times you fail more than once. But this does not mean one gets more demotivated each time and decides to eventually stop trying. Hard work definitely pays, even if it takes longer to do so than you wanted or expected it to. Be prepared for the worst, but hope for the best.

References:

Daily Life. (2019, December 18). Retrieved December 16, 2020, from https://www.stress.org/daily-life

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Nidhi Dahiya

Amazing work.

Prashamsa

Well written

Jigyasa vashistha

this is great content .. keep posting! 🙂

Disha Dhage

Informative article

Richa

Loved it! Congratulations for realizing it and taking steps to overcome your failure. I appreciate your efforts to motivate others with the help of your own story.
 “sometimes, failure is not a result of your lack of abilities, it could be a lack of effort or situational problems” this was my take back from your blog!
KEEP WRITING & INSPIRING!

Riya Shah

This is something that all of us have gone through at some point in our lives and super relatable! Self belief and Self love in such challenging times with a positive mindset, determination and hardwork will indeed help us turn the tide over. As it is said, Fall seven times but Stand up Eight times. Failures can help us overcome our own shortcomings and comeback stronger .

Rahat Dogra

Sometimes it’s better to relax and go with the flow

Riya Rajkotiya

Beautifully Written

Riya Rajkotiya

Great peice of work

Disha Dhage

Beautifully Written

Disha Dhage

Amazing work.

Disha Dhage

Amazing content

Disha Dhage

very informative.

Disha Dhage

Keep writing.

Disha Dhage

perfect

Jigyasa vashistha

this is insightful, thanks for writing:)

Jigyasa vashistha

amazing!!

Jigyasa vashistha

amazing content 🙂

Jigyasa vashistha

🙂

Jigyasa vashistha

lovely

Aishwarya

This article was such a good read!! I loved it! Keep up the good work!

Aakriti Lajpal

Meritorious

Gousia

Very good explanation. Thanks for your article

Jaspreet kaur

I liked your content.. i too scored less in my board exams..i fel very bad and it took me more than 15 days to overcome this thing.

OMKAR KATE

Hello,
Thank you very much for sharing such a beautiful and informative article. I have been through a similar experience and I can relate to many things written in this article. The tips you gave were very practical and very useful. Finding someone to support is really important( That is what I feel) because humans are social animals and need for belonging is always there. Learning from mistakes is also very important as it helps us grow more. I wish you all the best for your future. Have a great day

P Abigail Sadhana Rao

Inspiring, scores don’t determine who we are. Thank you for sharing your own story. Failing is part of the journey and you have beautifully expressed that.

Jiniya Chakraborty

this was very relatable for me as I have suffered immense pressure regarding my studies even though I was good at it. The pressure was very demotivating and sometimes I really felt like giving up but then we do have to take care of our own self. I did what you mentioned above like reading some motivational quotes, books, music, etc. It did help me win through that phase.

Janhavi Shrivastava

Kudos on choosing such a relevant topic! Loved the article, good use of sweet and simple language! Also brownie points for including the reference so that a reader can can choose to gain more knowledge about it! Also loved the personal touch, made the article more relatable!

Cheers! 🙂

Shruti Shashidharan

Thank you for sharing your personal experience! It’s great to know you were able to take active measures to overcome your difficulties. Thank you for sharing the tips and giving the readers something to learn and think about!

Shramana Singha Roy

I’m really happy that you realize , and youre trying to overcome it. and it was a worth reading article

Vaishnavi S

Amazing work

Radhika Saini

Great work!

Radhika Saini

You can add some pictures to beautify

Radhika Saini

Also, you can try writing in bulletins.

Radhika Saini

Overall, it’s amazing!

Radhika Saini

Keep it up!

Gousia

great explanation yaaar.you nailed it:)

Divya Chopade

Relatable article , m sure many of us have gone through this phase. The key is to drive motivation & positive outlook from it !
Thank you so much for this article ! ❤️

Gousia

great explanation:)

Meenu Jha

Loved the article!
If only could have written the main points and quotes in bold. ❤️

Gousia

informaive.

Shweta Tiwari

Loved its very Hard to realizing it and taking steps to overcome your failure. I appreciate your efforts to motivate others with the help of your own story.
“sometimes, failure is not a result of your lack of abilities, it could be a lack of effort or situational problems” this was my take back from your blog
This is something that all of us have gone through at some point in our lives and super relatable! Self belief and Self love in such challenging times with a positive mindset, determination and hardwork will indeed help us turn the tide over. As it is said, Fall seven times but Stand up Eight times.

Aanchal Sharma

Content of your article is so nice.
Just a suggestion to make your article more systematic.
Nice work
Keep going

Shramana Singha Roy

great content :))

Shramana Singha Roy

Sometimes it’s better to relax and go with the flow 😉

Kirti Giridhar

What an amazing article, very well written and so motivating !!!