How to value and appreciate bonds

“Bonds of love never make the wearer weaker – They give them greater strength.” – Wonder woman.

I believe that life is a lot about moments we let go of. Like the time you forgot to tell your father that his efforts are acknowledged and that you love him no matter what, or that time when you could not muster up the courage to tell your crush that you liked them.

These moments when gone, rarely ever repeat. And these people once went, they cannot come back. That is inevitable, isn’t it? No matter how much we want it to never happen, no matter how long we want to be immortal. We cannot be. Nor can somebody else be. That is why it is just the most important thing that we understand the value of a few bonds and we express our gratitude towards them so that they know how much they really mean to us.

A few years ago, a friend of mine had lost her father in an accident. She was devastated. So I consoled her, in the best way I could. She said that her guilt is too heavy. I asked her why. She replied that the day he met with an accident, they had gotten into an argument earlier that morning. And she left the house telling him that she hates him and she never wants to see him again. I had no words for this.

The girl I knew, she was very close to her father and this is how they parted. It was just a blatant moment of truth. Could not be ignored. And that is when I knew, life is too short. Let the people you love, know that you love them. So you can be at peace with yourself and they can be too. Let’s take a closer look at a few relations.

Parents:-

Often in the first half of our lives, we tend to neglect this relation the most. It is sad, truly sad. Because our parents seek our support too. Be it your mother or your father, they have a right to know that they did not do anything wrong and that you love them. I used to be very distant with my parents, thought that I was a burden on them. And they just did not love me. The realization did not kick in until I reached a low of my life, and the first people to stand there to pick me up were my parents. It was then I realized, they will be there no matter what. And ever since that day, I keep finding ways to show the love I feel for them, to show that I care. And believe me, when I say this, from being a broken family, we are now one of the happiest I have ever seen.

Siblings:-

An underrated bond, no doubt. Siblings are just one of the people who you get to spend your entire life with. They are your companions, and if you establish good relations with them, you will always have somebody who will look out for you. I have a sister. We fight a lot on an average day. But there are these days sometimes, where she is the only person I want to confide in. This one time, I saw her crying. I was shocked because I had never seen her cry, so I asked her what was wrong and she just hugged me. And I felt this need coming from within that I could never leave her alone. I made a promise that day to myself that I will always be there for her. So I think it is about time we acknowledge our relations with our siblings and try finding happiness from them. It will help us now, and it will help us later.

Friends:-

Yes, how can we ever neglect this bond? Many times, our friends are our lifelines. The people we make the best memories with. The ones we grow up with. Call them a support system, maniacs, your personal clowns, whatever you wish. But you know for a fact that you love them and there is not a thing that you would change about them, eh maybe a few, I have some really crazy friends. Friendships really do make all the difference in life. You can have one good friend and you are good for life. Even though, our friends know that we love them immensely. It does not hurt to let them know once in a while.

It would make them feel happy and secure. I seek great comfort from my friends. Throughout my illnesses, if somebody was there not because they were related to me, just because they loved me, were my friends. I have had my share of choosing the wrong people to be friends with, but now that I am over that phase, I am just glad for the small circle I have. They are absolutely delightful people who make me laugh when I cry. And I know without them by my side, I would have no colour in my life. If I am a canvas, then my friends are the vibrant colour strokes which makes the painting stand out.

Significant other:-

Well, it is really necessary to acknowledge this bond as well. Love is something that is most affiliated with this relation. Somebody who we want to spend the rest of our lives with. They always know that you love them, but if they don’t please tell them. Tell them so they can overcome small challenges in their day which they don’t talk about, tell them so that they get the motivation to continue with the next day. Just let them know, that you are the one for them and that you will always love them.

Pets:-

I don’t know if I speak for a lot of people when I come to talk about this bond, but I just felt the need to share it. I have 6 pets. And it has just been a wonderful experience to be with them. But in particular, I have this one pet, a rooster. I am very attached to it. Pets are just god-given gifts. My rooster, for instance, I know is a peculiar pet but when I say I found my rock, I mean him. Anything related to anybody can happen in a day, but you will never have a fight with your pet. And they are always there for you. All they do is love you. I cannot go a day without my pet rooster. He and I share this unexplainable bond where I don’t need to share with him what is happening, he will know. And he will cheer up my mood when I cry, or come sleep beside me when I am tired. And I just love him and I just hope, that he gets that.

Conclusion

There are many, many more bonds but I wrote a glimpse about the ones which matter the most to me. I have come to the conclusion that these people are the first priorities and that they need to know that you love them and appreciate them so that they can be happy too. You may not always be very vocal with them and you may not know what they could be going through, so you simply appreciating them can help them through their day or even through some ailment. So in the end, I would like to repeat what I said before. Life is too short, let the people you love know that you love them.