Your Kids Are Not Rats

People every so often forgets that a rat race can be won only by a rat.

Everyone wants their children to rule the world or you can say to reach the top where someone has already reached or in a rat race to get as far as possible.

In this day and age, Perfect scores are the most entailed thing for students in the world.

You don’t understand how much they suffer and taking risks in terms of their mental state.

And after completion of their degree, if they get a job (especially government job) then they are your most precious.

And if they don’t live up to your expectations, you start comparing your child to other children with most wanting dialogue, “unki Beti/Bete ko Dekho top kiya hain.

He/She got a job in the government sector.” See, this is how they become helpless and make difficult choices which leads them to ruin their life in the name of career commitments.

 

Sometimes things don’t go the way you have planned for them, no matter how hard you try.

I mean, I really don’t understand that why do you compare your child to others, when they are already feeling low on the inside.

There is a hell lot of difference between “giving your best” and “being excellent.”

Just to show people that how faultless your kid is and not taking notice to what exactly going on in their life is really heartbreaking.

Every individual is unique in their own way and there is no need for each one of them to be part of this rat race.

This rat race has become the main cause for most of the suicidal cases.

There are ways which can help you to connect with your children:

 

Talk To Them:

Know their whereabouts such as what they did at school? Just talk to them, you may have to finish your work, you arrived late at home.

But manage your time to have some chit chat.

Be genuinely interested in their life, no matter how busy you are.

 

Play With Them:

Play with them and you will realize that in this whole world, you never want to win against your child and that’s a completely different experience for you.

They just want to spend time with you.

So, make them learn to be a better person who can run their own race, not a rat race.

 

Share Your Own Experiences:

Believe me, your child always wants to know about your past life, especially when you were the same age as themselves.

This is a good way to help them in their difficult times.

 

Listen to your child:

Listening is not everyone’s cup of tea. But at least, try to listen to your child and let them do the talking.

Maybe you can go for a walk or wherever your child prefers.

 

Be yourself:

Just be, who you are with your child. Perfection doesn’t exist in this uncertain world.

Don’t force them to achieve what they never want to and tell them, there is so much to do or to live a life than running a rat race.

 

Be there, when they want you:

When I achieve even a small competition, I always want my parents to be there for me.

I mean this is something I always want, whether this involves running a race or a dance competition.

 

Conclusion

Please understand that every time you just can’t be overprotective or ignore them for the world. Instead of pressurizing your children, you should prepare them for the realities of life.

Children should be taught to not be distressed by lack of success.

They are in a battle with no one.

They fight their own battles.

They have no aspiration to play games of being superior to anyone.

They just target to improve to be better than they were before.

That’s who they are, and they are unbounded.