Vinaya Dalvi
What Self-Love is?
Greetings from this side of the screen fellow readers. What according to you best describes the term self-love? And why is it so hard to love yourself? I have googled all these questions a thousand times by now, but never found the right or most fitting answers to them.
Social media played a huge role in shaping my beliefs about self-love. Seeing all these people presenting their best selves on social media, made me want to be perfect at everything, all the time. No one sees the struggles behind it, because everyone is fighting their own battles.
Self-love isn’t just taking care of your external appearance, it is also being there for yourself on your hardest days. It is also not beating yourself up for feeling the emotions you are feeling, embracing both the good and the not so good parts of you. And working towards being a better version of yourself.
“Take me apart and put me back piece by piece, in an orderly manner. Fix me.”
All my life, I craved for someone who would make me feel whole, someone who would teach me how to love myself. It took me a long time to realize I am that someone.
You cannot expect someone else to do it for you. It’s you who has to do it. Someone I admire a lot once told me at the end of the day, you’ve got yourself and that’s enough.
The constant need to be enough for other people made me lose sight of the fact that I am enough for myself. And I realized that the sooner I believe and accept it, the better it will be for myself and the people in my life.
Not loving yourself comes from low self-esteem, low confidence and poor beliefs in yourself which can lead to a self-sabotaging pattern of behaviour.
Loving yourself, even a little bit is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.
Practising mindfulness and meditation can help.
Prioritize activities that bring you joy. Workout, practice yoga, read books that you like, watch movies that you like, learn something new, pen down your thoughts, and practice gratitude.
Do whatever that makes you feel happy and alive. Contrary to popular belief, self-love, self-care and putting yourself first doesn’t make you selfish. Empathize with yourself. And most importantly, be kind to yourself.
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Very well written…keep it up
Thank you:)
well written!
Self-love is so important! much needed article
this was a much needed article!
Thank you!!
Good work!!
this is such an important topic. enjoyed it a lot
Very Well Written
Self love is most important aspect in one’s life. One has to be kind to themselves and prove to themselves that they r enough to be with. Beautifully brought out the message of self love in the above article. Loved to read it! Self love is not selfishness. Great job
You cannot love others until you love yourself so yeah self love is very important. I hope many people read this article and gain a lot of insight.
Great article!!
Amazing content
Nice article! Try adding some pictures and pay attention to the grammar. Keep it up!
Your article was short and sweet! I really enjoyed reading this.
You have given a personal touch to this Article by sharing your own experience. Self care is very important in today’s world. This upcoming generation lacks love. Everything is too materialistic. It’s important for us to start valuing ourselves and shower love. Accepting ourselves is the first step. Thank you so much for pointing out these in your article.
Suggestion – try adding consequences of not loving yourself. The mental exhaustion that people face. Maybe that will encourage people and make them understand why is it important to start loving yourself more
well written.