SURVIVING EXITS

‘‘exits aren’t ending forever’

Living sounds like a journey on which we came to know a lot of people. From the very first day, as we become a part of this social setting, we go on with people, the habit of having them always with us. We barely expect an obnoxious scenario of not having them by our side.

But what if that obnoxious mishappen held with us?  As we grew up from an infant to a fledge aged person, we all have tended to lose someone for whose company we’ve always fallen for.

Not only considering love interests, but the feeling of grief and guilt that emerges after when the person isn’t with us is quite inquisitive to describe. From exits, we can refer to demises, breakups, cold wars (which apparently includes not talking terms).

People who’ve seen people around them suddenly dying are tended to be in grief and guilt of not venting out what they’ve for them. While on the other hand breakups and fights with friends which elongated a long bridge gap between them tend to make a person more resilient and gives them an idea about the complexities.

People can overcome the trauma of someone’s death with time but not with ease. It took years to get normalize with the prevailing facts.

The closer the gone person happens to be with us, the harder it gets to overcome with trauma. Talking about the people with whom we’ve lost touch and aren’t going to get back to normal.

That scenario is quite complex as egocentrism and self-esteem issues came in light under such situations.

As in a certain type of situation we’re really fond of the person but really not motivated enough to go ahead and resolve the misunderstanding, in general, people who find themselves in this scenario consider themselves as more of egoistic and self-centred.

Though I view this scenario with a totally different perspective as if a person doesn’t find oneself motivated enough to let things to then there might be a chance that relation has been intoxicating that person or both.

In my opinion, it’s okay not to let things go if you’re finding self-esteem getting violated. People who consider such ‘exits’ as part of life are resilient more than those who find it difficult to cope with such ‘exit’.

In certain situations, people find themselves more preserved in themselves and are always concerned about the people who’re currently with them. With the passage of time, it may be possible that a person starts to take credit of their mistakes.

While talking about the person who is willingly choosing to left us behind, that person might be dealing with toxicity, unresolved issues, misunderstandings with the other person and that might be the reason for them leaving.

Finding other person narcissists can also trigger someone irrationally leading up to not so positive thoughts about the other person.

In childhood, while facing such situations we experience sadness but have to reliant scope to cope up easily. By finding other common interests or by diverting one’s attention span children cope with certain situations.

In adolescents, teenagers find it quite difficult to cope with such a situation but those who’re high on resilience can cope with such a situation effectively. Teenagers who find it difficult to cope with such situations tend to be more egocentric than others.

The following situation can also trigger emotional imbalances, anxiety, depression, and stress if not handled efficiently.

In adulthood, people consider such incidents with the perspective of learning and aware themselves for not falling in the same situation again. Personally, talking about exits, I’ve been through many exits too, sometimes I felt myself not so motivated enough while on the side sometimes I cope up with crisis efficiently.

Hence, it all depends on oneself in order to figure out how to get out of that degradation zone. With the span of time, I acknowledged myself that above everyone what lasts long is ‘you’. If ‘you’ ever finding oneself in a self-degrading zone with others who tend to be your companion, then its never too late let go that companionship.

Talking about tips to cope up with such exits:

• Try to hold up good memories of the person who’s not with you anymore, it will make one more resilient to cope.
• Writing journals always helps, also in this situation it will help you to vent negativity out of you.
• Consider and apply the phenomenon called eustress (positive stress) on oneself in which people shift their span on stress on something which would later be beneficial for oneself. For example, people who chose to workout efficiently after exits tend to be going through eustress.
• Talk less about the one person with the third person as that might trigger the negative thoughts for the other person in oneself. Try always to count on good things rather than what you consider as not so good.
• Lastly, always count on positive aspects of the situation, people, and present. That would help you to cope easily.

Exits aren’t that bad, sometimes ‘seemed bad decision’ leads us to goodness.