MASCULINITY HARMING PEOPLE

Our society is heterogeneous in nature. Living in 2020, apart from male and female, the LGBTQ community also got valid representation in society after the abolition of Act 377.

With every hour passing by, we survive a part of our life in a society where most of the beliefs settle themselves on a patriarchal basis and norms.

In most of the countries in the world follows the whole patriarchal pattern and matriarchal basis and norms are barely considered.

Toxic people or can say most of the toxicity people have inherited in the name of values that aim at oppressing someone to the extent that the only motive they find to live for is for others.

People who say that we’re even on the note of equality only refer their territory and completely devoid of the bigger picture, that is, the society as a whole.

By toxic men I refer men who’re engrossed in patriarchal norms and have mere respect for others genders, basically, they’re misogynistic who hold prejudice against other genders.

With ‘Masculinity Harming People’ I refer belief that people have stigmatized that certain vague things are okay if men do but not acceptable if women do so.

In our society, the aggressive and predating behaviour of men is justified in the ode of their identity. Here aggression in men is even been pampered as if they don’t have any functional control over it.

Such stigmatized norms normalize domestic violence, marital rape, eve-teasing, catcalling, sexual assaults, getting into invalid fights for no reason.

And if women somehow end up breaking the glass ceiling and rise up to their beliefs then they’re been character assassinated and shamed.

Here masculinity is been related by people to multiple facets of negative learning and unethical behaviour.

Such a practised phenomenon of masculinity is been taught in homes to children with the effect of which male child is tend to be provided with more privileges than a female child.

The assignment of gender roles intensifies this massive impact on people as household chores are assigned to a female child and they start to schematize it as their duty.

When a child encounters their parents’ partial behaviour with a specific gender, then the child ends up learning or registering such facets.

Even during the family discussion when a child notices his elders defending a specific gender for doing wrong and blaming others for any mishappening, this also schematizes irrational environmental social learning in a child.

Stereotyping in gender roles does make it difficult for all the gender to express themselves. Stereotyping around gender identity and roles barriers open-mindedness.

Certain stereotyping also made it difficult for children to express themselves emotionally and to explore their sexual identity.

People can unlearn certain schematized learning and beliefs and register what suits them. For people from the rural background, it is more difficult than the people from urban backgrounds to break the stereotype and perceive what they like because constant societal pressure and interference end up that urge to raise a voice.

Stereotypes such as boys don’t cry, girls don’t work for late nights, are so common in our society that we think it is normal to account such facts, as a result of which we end up learning that yes, it is not okay for boys to cry and if they do people end up making fun of them or if girls end up working in late-night shifts then they’re been questioned.

Sometimes I feel like men do need more mental support than social support because they lack in expressing their views. There is a commonly used passive sentence ‘not all men’ which depicts that not all men are predators, or unsafe to roam around.

Generally, people use this justifying for the male ideals they know or with whom they feel safe but in my opinion, the one is who a safe company for you to keep in order to justify ‘not all men’ thing can’t be the same as you for instance.

Like a person can be good for you but not for others because of some internality.

Why do most people think that men should be kept on a superior pedestal? It is just the result of what a person has encountered and perceived.

In families, men are given major preferences than women in the family. In the working sector, specific job profiles are been tokenized for prominent genders.

In the entertainment media we consume, we majorly find male-centred movies more in which female characters aren’t much valued. Nowadays, more women-centric movies are been produced which are always been put on the stack of criticism.

Even in the way we address a crime incident to someone is problematic.

For example, when we say ‘a woman are been raped by a man’, here the problem is that people are addressing the crime by not giving much criticism filled address to the predator rather than the victim who must be already suffering.

Here we can easily assess that passive voice does have a political impact on us.

Hence, as a result when every sector actively or passively promotes such biases then it is so obvious for people to normalize gender biases.

 

Conclusion

I’d like to say that people need to teach young minds that nothing is gender defined in this age. From parenting to leading a country, every gender is efficiently capable of doing everything they desire for. Addressing wrong and right should be taught from the very beginning so that children can assess biases around them and intervene on their own.

 

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