Be Real, Not Perfect: Series by Nidhi Dahiya (Chapter 3)

In this chapter, I’ll talk about my understanding that what I want to be and how to avoid people who becomes a sort of barrier. Abruptly, I ask myself that what do I want to be?

When I was in school, one of my friends shared some incidence of Army life. And I was so much into it, I decided to become an Army officer. I told my parents about it, they were happy to hear something good after a long time. After few years, I wanted to be a writer and other options were on the way. Many struggle to begin a career early on because I could see many wildly different paths forward, each option with its own set of rewards which I never want to let go off. During all these years, I continued to live my dream of becoming an army officer. It wasn’t that bad, Infact it’s was a nice experience of getting honor and respect. This was appealing but also heartbreaking, because picking just one option means letting go of so much else and I couldn’t never do this to myself. Also somewhere in the corner of my heart, or a part of me knew that I don’t want it. This is not what I actually want from my life. I’m not limited to a specific thing, I’m a dreamer who has more dreams to achieve.

Somewhere, I felt this dream was making me limited and I let go off things easily that makes me stop as I don’t understand boundaries. I may look like a terrible mess, but I’m a story that makes sense of everything. You can not get my ideas or concepts about things until I want you to understand. I know I’m not alone in this, every single person go through this stage of life. I simply needed to understand what I actually wanted in my life and what exactly I need to unlock my exceptional potential while staying true to myself.

But in order to achieve my dreams, I need a roadmap that fits my requirements. Life is too short to stumble around grasping at scattered and contradictory advice that may work for most of the people, but not for me. The more I understood about the way I can achieve my dreams, the more confident, comfortable, and compassionate I become each day.

Also it helps me to explore the things that give meaning and purpose to my life. Now everything make a whole lot more sense and I work in a way that aligns with my values and allows me some independence. It’s the best way to achieve this is not to have to answer to others. So, be who you are, say what you feel and live the way you want to live.
I know you must be thinking that it’s easy to say everything. No, it’s never easy to do anything, at least not for me. I had to fight for it. Society say anything they want and everything in life gets so complicated. I wanted to prove myself. And believe me, I lost sight of who I was, I listened to opinions of people and I tried to change who I am because I thought people would accept me. But it wasn’t working. And I realized that I don’t want to be anything but myself.

Let me share a small story with you all, hope you will understand in a better way:
There was a speed race conducted to know the fastest animal, the dog or the cheetah.

But the cheetah didn’t move, sat in place and looked around. People asked the race coordinator that what happened? He told them after seeing him- sometimes trying to prove that you are the best is an insult. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Do things that brings you peace.

No matter what you do, you can’t make everyone happy or please them. Enjoy your journey that you have been out on. To be honest, what makes me stronger is not just the days, when I was a happy go lucky person but also the days when I cried alone. No one can realize the pain behind a beautiful smile. And some days or those sleepless dark nights too when I gathered my broken thoughts on a page. And you love my piece of work without knowing that it came out of a mess. I just love myself when no one does which is important.
So, don’t just live but live a meaningful life.

Previous Chapters

Be Real Not Perfect by Nidhi Dahiya (Chapter 2)

Be Real, Not Perfect: Series by Nidhi Dahiya (Chapter 1)