FROM BROKEN PIECES TO A VALIANT

Life is all about ups and downs. When ups uplift us to grow a bit more above the canvas, lows feel like to dwell up below the canvas. The reason behind such backdrops leads us to the path of guilt and grief.

Reasons behind breakups are a subjective matter which differs for all but fall on the same major track for instance and that major track is differences and unresolved issues or issues which were bothered a person but never got into a discussion. Breakups took place between the people who share a strong connection or share an affectionate approach towards each other.

The real evident facts about breakups are that they aren’t any easy and overcoming its hit could be really difficult for a person, it can really affect a person actively or passively, a person is also intended to loss mutual social circle he/she used to share with the former companion, could end up feeling lonely sometimes and lastly the most proven fact that the person and the circumstances can get better with the time.

Impact of breakups and heartbreaks in various domains

In order to acquire a steady overcoming from breakups, one must have a future-oriented optimistic approach towards the happenings. With a future-oriented optimistic approach, it focuses more on ‘whatever happens is held for goodness’.

Our body goes into ‘fight and flight’ mode when exposed to breakups and heartbreaks. Under such mode, a person chooses to either encounter the situation and overcome it efficiently or could let oneself affected by the circumstances of breakups. Breakups and heartbreaks can also diminish the flow in the level of neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin. Many studies have concluded that emotional pain and grief isn’t less than physical pain as it does hold an ability to bother a person’s routine functioning. The feeling of withdrawal is common after breakups. A person tends to cling on and seek prominent and rational explanations for such transitions.

The people who’re high resilience can deal with breakups by picking positive factors from so. People who’re low on resilience find it difficult to deal with breakups and are intended to cling to the whole picture. Self-esteem strata got affected after such incidents and getting over so all depends on how resilient a person is. To retrieve one’s self-esteem, one should freely grieve and vent out his/her feelings to move ahead in life. Breakups can also expose us to other environmental functioning around us but got our attention later yet sooner. A person becomes more prone to approach and accessibility aftermath of the breakups.

How to not feel so bothered? 

As mentioned above, breakups and heartbreaks do affect us vastly and left us with mere chances to consider it as any positive thing to happen. Though in my opinion I think clinging on the matter which bothers you do owe our attention and reaction but also do own steady shift towards betterment. So, by following such opinion, I’m going to recommend out some of the major self-enhancement stimulating activities which will make breakups less bothered and more of another chapter of our life:

• Writing down what you feel implicitly or explicitly just don’t let that stay in and vent that out by writing of getting into a conversation about breakups with the people our faith lies.
• Journalising one’s journey towards recovery and betterment can also help and can leave a long-lasting positive impact on oneself.
• Adapting healthy practices like working out and eating healthy can help in such situations.
• Practicing mindfulness never fails to make us feel motivated and distracted from the leads of breakups.
• With the passage of time, get rid of memories or things which associate memory of that former companion to stimulate real ‘move-on’ thing in one’s life.
• Invest time in your hobbies or pick new activities.

Conclusion

Breakups aren’t easy at all but could be overcome with time and active efforts and passive reactions. It does impact us severely, it isn’t necessary that only breakups between the love interest but heartbreak caused by anything do have the same consequences as breakups.

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