An apt response to a question that a lot of us might have asked at some point in our lives. In my own experience, the dynamics of the relationship can be pretty complicated. It can be that both wish to stay but their mental health problems complicate it, ex : someone who has anxious or avoidant attachment style might sabotage the relationship in their own respective ways.

It can be that the compromise needed to make the relationship work is too much. Examples include but not limited to : getting too little time to meet each other (a lack of physical intimacy hurts and this drives a lot of people towards frustration and quite possible, infedility), different goals in the future (even if the present is completely good, if the goals and dreams of two people clash or make them have to stay apart or ultimately make them both compromise on their own dreams just to be able to find a grey area), can be that one person wishes to be monogamous and the other polygamous (this distinction breaks a lot of relationships since some people can't keep emotionally invested for too long and need space).

Other factors can be religious beliefs, social or cultural problems, financial problems (yes people, a lack of financial stability can beat love in some cases but that too depends on each individual). It can be emotional illiteracy which might keep the people in stressful/abusive relationships. And SO ON! There can be a million reasons to break up and people might have to walk away from a perfectly good relationship just because the future might turn out unfavourable to one or both the partners. 

Just like Mr. Manoj expressed, one might grieve what could have been rather than the current reality. Other things that contribute to this difficulty can be : one gets comfortable with the hormonal rush that one gets when one is committed, open, vulnerable.. Intimate. These feelings give the brain a very addictive cocktail of hormones and these usually result in loneliness and second guessing your decisions. Furthermore, the instant ability to connect and check out what someone is doing online doesn't exactly help, it even makes it that much more difficult to move on, so complete block out from social media helps. Focused distraction as well as Meditation (what this does is make you attentive to your feelings, that in turn results you being able to process them) can help a lot. Seeing a therapist to help you grieve and cope up is a wonderful decision and it also takes courage to do that. Exercise helps (all those endorphins are good), plus one gets to externalize frustration, anxiety, loneliness, etc...so they don't remain bottled up, one can talk to a friend or attend social events as well.

Basically, it is very difficult but not at all impossible to do so. You just need to do the right things and trust the process.

I could see that you have been through thought part of life. I haven't had an experience in relationship to say about it .you have pictures your experience in a way that all could understand Keep going. Make your life more fruitfull😇

I have been in this situation guess moving on was actually so hard that i ended up accepting us back after 10 months of no texting, calling, chatting or even seeing each other and now are together from 4 years. Personally moving on in this situation was hard bt not in past situations. Hope things go well for you. 

Hey Manoj, 

Moving on is indeed hard. We all have a tendency to cling on to the past and change is scary and unpredictable. We should ideally fight our fears and make the right choices.

I believe life is extremely unpredictable and we should aim to stay happy and remove negativity from our life and fight for elements which truly matter. 

Well written!The way you have written touches every heart!❤️

Hey,

You know it's really hard moving on not because you backed off or the other person did it's because how much you put in the relationship and that's where it gets harder but once you move in trust me you feel stupid about what you use to think before or give importance to something that didn't really matter.

Take care!! 🤗

Do what you like don't do things which other force on you or the things in which you are not comfortable 

Don't lose hope dude, nothing is permanent. The universe is always changing... 

Hi Manoj,

All of us have our share of experiences; some are good and some are bad. But you know what counts is how much we grow through each experience. I know break up hurts and moving on hurts, so it's okay to take your time to grieve and get over it. Everyone says just forget it and move on but no one knows the pain we go through, so IT'S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY at times. We have our ways of coping with any problem we face and all our ways are different. So lets learn from each other and help each other in the process....

Hello. Its a very good topic to talk about. these days relationship span is so short. People take relations as a joke. that is why its easy for them to break up and patch up like a game. You explained the concept in a good way. Though there might be other reasons too ; maybe the breakup was none of their decision but family's, maybe they had ego in between etc. Good job. 😀

Thank you for sharing this. I really liked the part where you said it's no use to be manipulative and deceive your own self because at the end, the truth will be felt by you and your partner. Moving on is difficult. No we never forget the feeling elicited in us by the other person, but just as you said we learn to deal with them. It would be truly impractical to ask someone to forget their past loves. If you're on the other side, as in you're not the one who initiated the break up, putting yourself in your partner's shoes and understanding them (empathy), being accepting, and non judgemental helps both of you to get to a better place and deal with your emotions in a healthy way. Every relationship has a duration and an expiry date. Love doesn't. Love prevails. 

First off all , proud of you to move on and grow .second , upgrade yourself : focus on yourself and your goals and show them what they lost 

Beautifully expressed🤗❤️
We should feel the emotions at that time only faking happiness would not do anything good for us it will only worsen the situation for later life. Feeling your emotions at that point dissolve them and you feel happy later on🌸

Well written, don't lose hope and be confident 💖

Great..I feel so inspiring after reading about your experience.Thank you so much for sharing your experience with you

All the best for your future.

Moving on is hard some people doesn't have the courage of moving not because they are stuck with person feeling is it because they just dont want to I have seen it one of friend she is happy being single but at the same point she is like I am not going to move ahead it doesn't mean I want him back is just I want to stay back there and grow more. 

Hi Manoj!

It was so wonderful to read your article. I absolutely loved how you have described each and every aspect of how the break ups affect us both mentally and emotionally. It is an article that I have read for the first time.

Best wishes,

Sneha

@manoj It is difficult to move on when you are on the wrong side. When you were not the one to end things. It may be easier for the other to move on, but not the same for you. When it's genuine, they take a part of you. I don't know if I am able to put this in the right words, but yes. It takes a piece of you, and you do not wish to go over the same thing again, because apparently, it hurts. To build something so delicate, and break into pieces again.

Hey, I like the topic that you chose. Yes, many a times it is hard to move on from relationships since you have loved them to bits, and never imagined what life without them would be like. 

My thoughts on this topic are - if you love yourself enough, you will never crawl back to someone who rejected you. Also, you don't necessarily need a romantic relationship to be happy. Remember, HAPPINESS IS NOT A PERSON, RATHER A STATE OF MIND. You can be single and still enjoy your life to the fullest. Don't let your romantic relationship define you, you are much more than that.

Thanks for reading! 

Thank you for sharing this. I thought you summed it up well, however i do feel there are other factors involved as well. I did like what you had to say though

hey manoj, the way you expressed Answer to  your question is nice.

Actually there is no perfect answer to this question because it always varries from person to person. 

Although I've never been into such situation because I'm single by choice. Similarly it's always choice to make anything easy or difficult doesn't matter how harder externals are and stimulate your actions.  

I've seen around me very closely that how harder it could get for someone to move on and at Same time I've also seen how easy it could get like a cup of tea. 

It all depends on person, his strong mind , personality and intellect with decisiveness. 

People I don't know why are not being able to say NO!  to something they don't want. Be courageous to say NO,  Learn how saying No can help you. 

Your question made me answer to the core depth but it's OK to put full stop here. 

Wish u health and happiness. 🌼

hi hope you are doing fine and i m proud of you that you moved on and that your growing! keep going and all the best! ❤️