I am a Brown/Dark girl, and I am proud to say that. But as a child, The external environment that we all have grown in has always made us feel that being brown/dark is Ugly. From the racist advertisements to all the aunties giving us tip to have fair skin. This society has always made us feel inferior and depressed With my confidence going down, I preferred staying inside my house. Every day I used to cry myself to sleep.
It took me 18 years to I realised that Inner Beauty is more appreciated than Outer Beauty and We are recognized for our personality and not for our looks. This realisation made me so confident that I started participating in more events, I started socialising, and I am a happy and free person. Even though I had a dejected childhood. I realised what actual beauty is...
Yashaswini Bhat December 12, 2020 4:24 pm
@sujap thanks for sharing. I would like to say you are beautiful the way you are. I also have friends who faced it and i was there with them always hope don't worry about outer appearance that may be false some time. love yourself and smile more . have a good day ahead.
Shobha December 12, 2020 4:38 pm
@sujap this is quite relatable for me as everybody in my family was quite fair but I have a dark complexion and they always used to feel sad for me that I have a dark complexion and I used to think that this is a quite big problem but after some time I realized that everything is shit like everything that glitters is not gold is said well . So love yourself ♥️
Parishree Pandya December 12, 2020 5:40 pm
@sujap the important thing was you realised the truth and now it has changed your life for the better. Congratulations on that, keep up the spirit and you'll go way ahead in your life.
R.Aishwarya December 12, 2020 7:52 pm
Thank you for stressing on the fact that beauty has got nothing to with appearence. Every one is beautiful.
Diksha Tarnekar December 12, 2020 8:02 pm
@sujap Hey You. I used to struggle with my complexion too as a kid. Everyone calling us names. So being a dusky skinned Girl, I completely understand you. It took me a while to come onto terms with self acceptance and I wear my skin color as my pride. You are beautiful. Stay happy 🙂
Shraddha S. Kambli December 12, 2020 8:19 pm
@sujap hey thank you for sharing it. Good to know that you realised that our appearance doesn't matter what matters is our thinking. Best wishes to you for future. Stay happy always😃
Faiza Naved December 12, 2020 8:25 pm
@sujap I am sorry that society made you feel that way and that you have faced so much. On the other hand I am happy to hear that you have realised what's most important, hope that we all learn from each other's experiences and try to make this world a better place
Aashima Kathpalia December 12, 2020 8:37 pm
@sujap This is really a great and beautiful step that you have taken , the way you have carried yourself , I can say that is really appreciated . Facing everything and fighting with daily obstacles is really difficult task itself and you have actually accepted thing so gracefully . More power to you . 😍 😍
and seriously I can say that to be honest I really admire black and dark complexion more because the grace you guys have is actually a blessing within itself . ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Divya Chopade December 13, 2020 2:44 pm
Hello,
Thank you for sharing your journey , it's very inspiring ! Sending good vibes your way❤️
Keep loving your self & always remember ' logon ka kaam hai kehna ' ! You do you girlll! ❤️
Sneha Agrawal December 13, 2020 3:05 pm
I am proud of you even though I do not know u.Its difficult out there in the world,AND instead of acknowledging the beautiful attributes of a person,the society is behind those irrational and irrelevant things associated with a person such as skin color etc.Definitely mindset Is evolving and has definitely changed over the years but still somewhere these small things are imbibed withinn the minds of some people.That definitely has to do with the prejudices and biases that are pit into their heads in the name of culture.But you just ignore everything.Prosper on and flourish.Bestest wishes❤❤
Prakriti Sanganeria December 13, 2020 5:31 pm
I would say you are beautiful no matter what colour. The society need to learn that colour of our skin does not define us but our personality does. Inner beauty is always more beautiful than the outward appearance and let no one make you feel inferior. Have self love and be positive no matter what others say. You have a great future and you know it!
Chestha Dengri December 13, 2020 6:06 pm
I am so sorry for what happened to you . I hope you have healed from it and seeing you here , discussing about this shows how strong you are ! 🙂
Gourinanda T S December 14, 2020 1:24 am
Thanks for sharing such a great experience with us. Keep going my dear friend. All the very best for your future.
Khushi Garg December 14, 2020 1:42 am
Believe me skin colour does not define anything. I have a fair skin but a really huge nose and overall bad facial symmetry, I can assure you I am ugly in more ways than my colour describes. Im trying to deal with my insecurities and I wish you luck to deal with yours.
Manasi Bhosale December 14, 2020 2:45 am
Thanks for sharing your experience! Colour doesn't matter! What matters is good heart! Glad you have accepted yourself!
OMKAR KATE December 14, 2020 3:09 am
Hello,
- Thank you very much for sharing your experience. And yes, inner beauty is appreciated more than outer beauty. I would like to appreciate you on your efforts to go out and socialize. Power to you. All the best for your future
Preethama December 14, 2020 3:36 am
hey there, id like for you to listen to this song 'you are beautiful no matter what they say, words cant bring you down'. own your look and everything. you will be accepted for who you are and more than other what matters is you loving and accepting yourself. thanks for sharing. all the best, much love.
Pooja Gupta February 2, 2021 5:49 pm
It's really sad to know about what happened to you back then. But I am so happy that you HAVE moved out of it. May be all of us can think of achieving a mindset like yours.
As it is said beauty lies in the eyes of beholder. Everyone is beautiful and no one has the right to make them feel otherwise. Glad to know u realized u r beautiful the way u r nd don't need someone's approval.😊
More power to you! Each one of us is beautiful in our own perfectly imperfect ways! I am so glad to know you realised you're beautiful! You've written this quite beautifully, thank you for sharing:)
What matters is how your heart is and I can say you've a beautiful heart so yaeah you're beautiful.
Hey more power to you!
That's a great journey and it's kinda relatable, unfortunately. Each time I see Fair and Glow or whatever, it makes my skin crawl. It is very unfortunate and we should should change the perception of people. People should be valued for their personality and actions and not anything else. Thank you for sharing. You are a strong person.
Great going girl.Thank you for sharing your experience. May you always be happy
More power to you, this writing of your may cheer so many of them facing issues but have no courage to talk , it will encourage and motivate them🙂..
Good luck
I liked the way you relaised about inner beauty. This concept needs to be acknowledged by each and every individual. All the best to you. I hope you inspire more people
Glad to know your story. That also reminds me of the concept of body shaming. This is another stigma in our society that thin individuals look more pretty than chubby ones. It is not true. All girls need to realize whether they are thin, small, short, or dark, they are beautiful. It is the soul of the person that defines the beauty of an individual. Happy for you:).
So glad to see you writing about such a sensitive topic and describing your struggles. Super proud to see you facing them head on and overcoming them. Besides, what makes a person truly beautiful is their kindness, strength, compassion, character , their quirks and so on. In that case, you're indeed truly beautiful and I'm sure your experience will inspire others who are going through the same.
Soo much happy to read this post! Be same same beautiful person and don't let anyone set ur limits! Lots of virtual love!❤️
Hey,
Girl, self-love is all a person needs to learn and that's why we all are here gathered to know and learn about it. Am glad you already know about it. I know there are many drawbacks to our culture but once you accept yourself, you don't need anyone else to approve you.
Keep going
Take care!! 🤗
Heyy 🌻 @sujap uh r gorgeous the way uh r. I'll not say more than that just 2 lines only for uh.
फिकी पड गयी गोरे रंग की खूबसुरती भी
जब चडा था खुमार सावले रंग का|
Its a sad reality of our society that the outer beauty is appreciated more than inner beauty. 18 years is really long. I am thankful that you were proud. Its inspiring...
I feel that most of the times the outer beauty is not the real beauty
Oh My God Suja your experience is overwhelming!!
I love how beautifully you have expressed inner beauty. This world needs to stop being racist and we need to give importance not to our shades of skin but the vibrant shades of personality that we have. 18 years should have been really hard but you know what made those 18 years worth it? That moment of realization where you find that eternal bliss!! That makes you bloom in a way you never have. This journey of yours is so inspiring and makes us look up to our own self and say all that matters is your inner beauty and not the color, shape or size...
Thank you soo much for this insightful learning!!
Thank u for sharing your experience in life.
It might give many of us the strength to speak about such experiences.
Be happy:)
Thabks for sharing your experience. It was amazing .
Hello beautiful,
so proud of you ! It's a brave step. There are many people who haven't yet understood and realsied how pretty they are and much more than what society says . I have an anonymous help inst account and website where I have revieved around 8 stories about how people struggle with socital perceptions of beauty . It will be really helpful of you if youb dm me on @_shades_of_khushi_ and we can share your story either with credit or anonymous doping on how you want . If it helps someone out there is nothing as wonderful. Looking forward to hearing from you . Share this post screen short when you sm
Sending you light and love
Our Beautiful heart matters a lot than other appearance. Thanks to god that you realized what is important.
Dear, I know how you feel. I have closely seen peoole who are victims of body and color shaming.
Once you realise they DO NOT have the power to control you, influence your though processes and make you feel bad, Trust me you can never go back and you will never feel the same way.
Be confident of who you are, let alone people who say otherwise. Sending lots of love your way💕
That's so true inner beauty is all that matters ! Keep up the work
Hey! I know that the world can be a cruel place sometimes but don't ever doubt yourself. You do not need any external validations just to feel good about yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else and this means that nobody has the right to say anything about you cuz they have no idea who you truly are, right? Just believe in yourself. You're beautiful and I am so proud of you!❤️
Hey 🙂 Firstly, I am so happy for you 🙂 And its amazing to see that you have understood the importance of self-love. Not many of us can do that. Great going 🙂
Beauty comes with self! Thank you so much for sharing this, I loved it so much!
Very inspiring, this is going to inspire a lot of people who face racism everyday. Proud of you more power to you.
Well inner beauty matter a lot and I'm sure you're marvellous inside. It's just an opinion but i think darker skinned individuals are much more beautiful than the lighter skinned counterparts. We as people are dumb to not see the beauty of colored people and to me, dark skinned are blessed. It's extremely unfortunate how racism and Phobias are ingrained in the society but i really hope you that you come to love yourself and your outer beauty and not take any shit from anybody. Because that's how Queens are!
Suja P Topic starter
December 14, 2020 1:46 pm
Thank you Harshit, it was really nice reading your point of view.
Hey there, I'd like to start by saying I think you're a beautiful person inside out and super proud that you overcame your insecurities and got on with your life! Thank you so much for coming forward with this story because I'm sure it inspires any person who reads it. Wishing you all the love and happiness in the world😊
Thinker/ Dreamer/ Believer
Hey!!!...Thank you for sharing your experience on such an important topic...
I hope more people get motivated , inspired and feel better about themselves after reading this...
Best of luck to you...
Hey Suja, I would like to share my personal experience with you. I had a crush on a girl when I was in class 12. She was probably one of the most prettiest girl I had ever seen. I could look at her endlessly...... Eventually we became friends. I was living my dream life. However it hit me hard when she said that people of other religions (I and she had the same religion) and different castes shouldn't be given respect. That was the moment when all my attraction for her faded in a minute. People become less attractive or rather become ugly when you discover the way they think.
So yeah buddy,only inner beauty is eternal.....
Suja P Topic starter
December 23, 2020 2:04 pm
That is so much true Vishal. Outer beauty will just be for a short term but inner beauty is forever. Thank you so much from sharing your experience is means a lot to me
